How to achieve your goals: 6 secrets of the iron spirit

The strength of character is a key condition for success in sports, in careers and in life. 6 techniques of education of psychological stability and unbending firmness of spirit!

Author: Charles Chu

Brandon Webb did not even think about giving up.

"Fuck you, instructor Buchanan – you went. The only way to get rid of me is to take it from here in the funeral bag. "

It was in the middle of the "hellish week". Weeks of endless tests of body and spirit, which must be borne by anyone who wants to join the ranks of marines – the most elite special unit on the planet.

Webb was tested for strength, although the level of physical training was much weaker than many competitors. And he had to step on the throat of his pride. Not the most optimistic scenario. The instructors wanted him to throw out a white flag.

Despite insignificant chances (only one of the seven candidates is selected) and a "special" attitude from the instructors, Webb became a sniper of the elite division of fur seals.

How did Webb succeed in a business that most people could not afford?

I have long been fascinated by the biographies of soldiers of all time, from the Spartans to the Marines. When I admire certain qualities (in this case, strength of character and hardness of mind), I prefer to seek answers from the source. I ask the question: "Who is the best in the world in such an aspect?" And then I try to study his history.

It's the same with the Marines. They are one of the coolest people on the planet. And they have much to learn.

What do you need to become a sealskin?

Probably most people think that the secret of success is in unique physical data. I thought so too.

In an autobiography that hit the New York Times best-selling list, "The Red Circle: My Life in the Marine Corps, or How I Became One of America's Best Snipers," Webb wrote:

"It is a common misconception that for selection in the marines you need to be a super athlete. This is not true. In terms of purely physical requirements, the course is designed so that a man with an average level of training can pass all the standards. "

Yes? This raises new questions.

If it's not in physics, what is the deciding factor in the selection for the Marines? Blind lot and luck? Or some genetic features?

"The real test is hardness of character. The training course is designed to constantly push the candidate to the extreme. Again and again until he is so hardened that he can perform any task with confidence in himself, no matter how high the stakes are, or until it breaks. "

Aha. So we got the answer. The secret is not in the body and muscles, but in the head.

So, the Marines are tough guys. Perhaps the coolest in the world. But what do we care? To ordinary people, office workers and clerks, what is the use of unbending firmness of spirit?

The hardness of the spirit (psychological stability) is of tremendous importance for achieving (and planning) success in the long run. This was clearly demonstrated by the now famous Stanford zephyr experiment. Details about this and Angela Lee Duckworth in the bestseller "The key to success? Hardness of character ».

It turns out that the ability to keep a given course plays a huge role when it becomes really hard. Remember the famous advice of Winston Churchill: "If you have to go through hell, keep going." And this is a damn good advice.

In a modern soft-bodied world with warm seats in toilets and such an abundance of food that it is difficult not to grow a belly, it is not surprising that people fold at the first difficulties.

But who cares about them.

For me, it is much more interesting that in the world of weak in spirit the education of psychological stability gives a huge advantage. Learning to go forward where all around include the back, we are on the road to success.

6 technician for nurturing character hardness from Marines

After reading a lot of the memoirs of the former Marines, I distilled the techniques they used and received as a result of 6 the following techniques.

Each technique comes with a short explanation and practical application in real life.

How to eat an elephant? In pieces.

In the face of a frightening task – a marathon, the launch of a new project or the desire to approach a beautiful woman on the street – we are often paralyzed by fear and stop before we take the first step.

The decision of fur seals – fragmentation of the problem. Slowly divide the elephant into pieces that you can swallow, and . Well, you got the idea. Solve the problem step by step, step by step. Maybe it's a cliche, but it works.

By the way, many marathon runners and triathletes do exactly the same thing. They concentrate on the next goal – the nearest landmark on the horizon – and do not allow consciousness to switch over the entire distance.

Application Break down any frightening task into short-term and achievable goals. Ideally, each of them should be achieved in 24 hours. Think only about the nearest goal, try not to look at the task as a whole.

That's what really struck me.

In one experiment, basketball players improved their free-throw scores by 23%, simply imagining a throw from the line. Players who practiced free throws advanced to 24%. The difference is only 1%. Wow!

Good visualization should have the following qualities:

  • Alive and detailed. Connect all the senses. Imagine everything to the last detail. Make the images as realistic as possible.

Application Next time, on the threshold of an exciting and responsible event, imagine how you are achieving success.

Technique 3. Controlling emotions

During periods of severe stress, the release of certain hormones – adrenaline, cortisol, noradrenaline – provides us with energy and exacerbates the concentration.

But if the level of stress hormones is increased for a long time, we can not switch to rest. There are problems with sleep, the motivation suffers, the immune system weakens.

The fur seals have a simple solution to account 4-4-4:

Does the technique seem familiar? Something like yoga is done for thousands of years. The mind affects the body, but feedback also exists.

Use simple breathing exercises to turn off stress hormones and tune in to a wave of relaxation.

Application This helps, even if you have already been meditating. When next time you find yourself in the clutches of stress, stop and take a few deep breaths. The author of the bestselling book Tim Ferriss recommends discarding all matters, making 3 an inspiration, and then returning to daily duties.

"People are tormented not by things, but by ideas about them," – Epictetus.

We have more control than we think.

We can not control what happens in the outside world, but we can control how we interpret it.

In the book "Breaking stereotypes. As an ordinary guy to become a Marine, "D. Kh. Xavier recalls the personal experience of the" infernal week ":"

"They continued to crush, even when they had already cornered me. How can I not believe that they want to get rid of me, but believe this – and then throw out a white flag. Instead, I continued to believe that I do not care about what they say there. I only believed that I could succeed . "

Xavier uses what I call paraphrasing. He takes one of the possible points of view, sweeps it away, and chooses another. What could be interpreted as a bad sign suddenly becomes an occasion for optimism.

Application Focus on how you treat external events. As soon as you realize this, change your point of view. Try to paraphrase any unpleasant event and find in it a source of positive. Look at the "bad" news as a test, after which you will become better.

What to do when morale is broken? You lost your wallet, the street was a wall of rain, and even your wife decided to leave you on that particular day. What to do when everything falls from your hands and works against you?

Try to build on small joys and victories.

Every day I write three things in my diary, for which I am grateful for this day. Today I wrote:

  1. Cool freshness after a long rain.

Small victories cheer up. A good mood strengthens morale. So there is a "vicious circle" of positive, which helps to step forward.

Try this technique if you have not tried it yet. Trifles mean much more in our lives than one might think.

Technique 6. Find your tribe (and demand)

In the book "Tribe: belonging and returning home" Sebastian Janger writes:

"People do not oppose difficulties, they harden them; they are against the feeling of their own uselessness and unclaimedness. Modern society has succeeded in art, how to make a person feel unnecessary. It's time to put an end to it. "

What does Janger mean? We have all heard stories about inhuman power at times when there is an urgent need for this force. A classic example of the complete subordination of the body to consciousness is the situation in which the mother raises the car to save her child.

We are people, and we are social creatures. We passionately want to find meaning in a world that at times seems completely meaningless.

Find both – close friends and clear principles – and you will get a reinforced concrete foundation for the firmness of the spirit.

Application Think about the things that fill your life with meaning. This is the first step in finding your tribe – a group of people who share your beliefs and values.

That's all. Six simple techniques. Tools you have. It remains only to make them work!

Great article! Pure psychology of self-adjustment in a simple, accessible, form, for every reader

so I'm on the tournament, and so 20 times.


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